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Transforming from a working woman to a noincome earner can be a bit of a shock. Justine Davies, P finance expert, reveals how to get prepared

This article appeared in the SeptemberOctober 2009 issue of Pregnancy Birth magazine.

So peuterey outlet many things in life change when you have a baby. There are the obvious changes the north face uk to your family dynamic, and the inevitable physical and hormonal changes you experience. There are also the mental changes as your priorities shift, not to mention major timemanagement changes. Then there's another permanent shift that sometimes goes ignored until the baby arrives: financial change.

A new way of life Sarah, 32, vividly remembers her first Melbourne Cup day as a mum. "I was at home with my twomonthold baby. I turned on the television, sat on the couch and cried," she said. "It was the first year I hadn't been at work, having a fancy lunch and a silly hat competition.

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Lola Mashado, venue manager for Relationships Australia, says that couples quite often seek counselling after having a baby, and that money problems can influence that. "If finances aren't properly organised it can create great upheaval when a baby comes into the house. There's an old saying: 'when money worries come in the door, love flies out the window.' Financial stress can take away from what should be a very happy time for new parents," Lola says.

It's not only money stresses that can impact on a new mum there's also the financial dependency that comes with a reduced family income. This can really batter selfconfidence, as Sarah found. "It was so difficult to some to terms with not earning an income. I didn't realise until I went replica borse gucci on maternity leave how much I measured my value as a person by how much I earned. It was silly outlet gucci because I was looking after our baby, which was far more important <a href="http://www.biennalecarrara.it/peutereyoutlet/">peuterey outlet</a> than anything I could ever do at work, but I couldn't help feeling that I <a href="http://www.agriturismoilmeo.it/borsefirmate/">replica borse gucci</a> wasn't pulling my weight," she says.

And while it may mean tuning into a completely different mindset to the one you've had for many years, Lola borse bottega veneta encourages couples to consciously value each other's financial and nonfinancial contribution to the family equally.

So take heart: one day you may trade the jeans and Tshirt for a business suit again. Financial independence will be an option once again. In the meantime, through, you're involved in one of the most challenging and rewarding roles of your life: raising a happy family.